FORMS OF BULLYING
There are numerous forms of bullying however it’s not always easy to determine bullying behavior. How do you know if you are the victim of good-natured ribbing or bullying? Hostility and aggression directed towards a victim who is physically or emotionally weaker than the bully are more obvious signs of bullying. This behavior causes pain and distress to the victim.
Bullying comes in various forms:
THE ISSUE OF BULLYING
-Bullying is a problem that affects millions of students of all races and classes. Kids are being bullied and deeding on their ages up to 43% of students have been bullied.
Child and teen bullying and cyberbullying are at an all-time high. Some kids are so tormented that suicide has everyone worried. Not just the kids on its receiving end, but the parents, teachers, and others who may not understand how extreme bullying can get.
ARE YOU A BULLY?
Have you ever bullied someone else? Think about why you did it and how you were feeling at the time. Did you want to make yourself feel better? Did you feel the need to be better than anyone else? Did hurting others make you feel better? If so, WHY?
You might think that others will like you better for acting badly and hurting them. But most bullies aren’t liked, even if it starts that way. Do you think bullying is funny and o big deal? You’re wrong. BULLYING HURTS!!!
Did you know that bullies are most likely to:
-Get into frequent fights
-Steal and vandalize property
-Drink alcohol and smoke
-Report poor grades which could result in not getting into college
-When cyberbullying and getting caught could face arrest depending on the degree of the incident
-Perceive a negative climate at school
-Carry a weapon
HOW TO DEAL WITH BULLIES
If you are being bullied there is a lot you can do. While different tactics work for different people, the first thing you should do is try to work it out yourself.
Depending on how bad the bullying is and as long as you don’t feel at risk, scared, or physically threatened, you might want to try and work it out yourself. The more empowered you are, and the more you can help yourself, the better chance you have to stop the bully. If the bully doesn’t change their behavior, that’s when talking to someone else can be helpful. The bully wants you to react. Their goal is to make you feel powerless, make you feel sad and scared. And if you show them you are not sad or scared, they will often lose interest and they cannot make you feel powerless.
Remember they want to upset you constantly so you get angry. If you don’t get angry, the bully will lose their power.
Remember that bullies are human too. They eat, sleep, and live just like you do, the only difference is that you are not a bully. Bullies act that way because they lack the attention or parental love and they are jealous of you. They are insecure and bullied only to feel powerful.
Here Are Some Ways How To Handle The Bully:
-Walk away when the bully approaches you.
-Concentrate on thinking about something else
-When the bully approaches you, count to 100 and keep walking
-When the bully harasses you and calls you names, look them in the eyes, laugh, and walk away without any additional conversation.
What NOT To Do If You Are Bullied
-think it’s your fault. Nobody deserves to be bullied
-Fight back or bully a person back
-Keep it to yourself and think that the bullying will “go away” .Make sure you report the bully.
-Be afraid to tell. Telling is not tattling, it’s the right thing to do.
-Hurt yourself. Nothing is so hopeless that it can’t be resolved. As painful as bullying is, nothing is ever that bad that you should hurt yourself in any way.